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Nothing is more destructive to a teen and/or their
family than the use of drugs. Consequently the earlier the intervention the
better. The problem is that in most cases teens are using drugs for several
months or even years before parents become aware of it. Even when parents do
become aware of drug use, they often underestimate the extent of their childs
involvement.
If you are suspicious your child may be using drugs,
dont ignore the warning signs. Children seldom grasp the concepts of addiction.
Most view themselves as imperious to peril. For some teens, the stress of
adolescence and pressure from their peers is overwhelming, and drugs
become an enticing escape from their real world.
- 1. Neglected appearance/hygiene
- 2. Poor self image
- 3. Grades dropping
- 4. Violent outbursts at home
- 5. Frequent use of Eye Wash
- 6. Unexplained weight drop
- 7. Drug Paraphernalia
- 8. Slurred speech
- 9. Curfew violations
- 10. Running away
- 11. Skin abrasions
- 12. Hostility towards family members
- 13. Chemical breath
- 14.Glassy eyes
- 15.Red eyes
- 16.Valuables Missing
- 17. Possessing unexplained valuables
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18. Stealing/borrowing money
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19.Change in friends
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20. Depression
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21. Withdrawal
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22.Apathy
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23.Reckless Behavior
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24.No Concern about future
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25. Defiles Family Values
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26. Disrespectful to parents
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27. Lying/Deception
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28. Sneaky behavior
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29. Disregards Consequences
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30. Loss of Interest in healthy
activities
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31. Verbally abusive
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32. Manipulative/Self-Centered
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33. Lack of Motivation
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34. Truancy
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If many of these signs seem applicable to your child, and
their behavior, do not despair. Denial and shame in response to drug abuse, for
the user or their family, will only serve to be additional obstacles to
overcome. Know that many young people can be helped, and there is effective help
available.
If outside help is needed the following
resources may be helpful to parents:
Parents often say they want to know
everything that is going on in their childrens lives. But is that really true?
Parents need to be aware that drug use generally begins months, or even years,
before parents actually do become aware of their teens drug use. Certain topics,
such as childrens sexual behavior, underage drinking, and gang violence are
subjects so uncomfortable parents often choose to ignore them, or perhaps only
lightly approach them, often cloaked in denial, hoping these issues will not
affect their family. Parents recognize consequences of these issues can be
frightening. However, silently clinging to the denial and hope that these issues
will not be part of their childrens lives can create an equally devastating
consequence. And no topic is any more frightening to a parent than teen
substance abuse.
Parenting presents continuing
challenges. Putting on blinders will never create resolutions. The subject of
teenage drug abuse is very wide and multifaceted, involving many drugs and their
variations. It will not be possible to cover all information regarding teenage
drug abuse here, but rather it is our desire to broaden your information so that
you may feel more confident about parenting decisions surrounding teenage drug
use as it pertains to your children. For even when a parent does become aware of
drug use, they often underestimate the extent of their child’s
involvement.
Why do kids use drugs?
As we search for solutions that
would protect our children from the perils of substance abuse, the questions
arises as to why they would ever want to use them at all. From an adult
perspective the repeated question is, "Who’s to blame?" Often looking to
transfer responsibility, the adult population frequently points the finger of
blame outward. Depending on who you ask you may hear a range of criticism that
includes the media, peer influence, lack of supervision from school officials,
drug pushers, law enforcement’s lack authority, law enforcement’s overreaction,
kid’s role models, parental indulgence, to lack of parental involvement. There
is no denying that these can be contributing factors, as outside influences can
be very powerful. But to ascribe blame solely on outside influences would be not
only an exaggeration, but would be saying our kids are nothing more then victims
of circumstance and thus would remove them from the accountability of their own
choices. Where adults tend to look outward for ‘the answers’, the kid’s
explanations tend to point more towards themselves. They tend to explain it from
a more personal choice, something inside them urging them on; wanting to fit in,
a curiosity, or need for excitement.
Understanding the teenage
perspective holds important keys. There are many pressures teens deal with on a
daily basis. When kids are asked why they began using drugs, they do not look
outward to outside influences. Rather their reasons include those similar to the
following responses:
- They want to fit in, to feel part of the group
- To rebel against adult authority
- To escape their problems
- To hide their feelings of inadequacy, and low self
esteem
- The thrill and excitement of taking a risk
- Wanting to feel grown up
The ‘Gateway’ Drugs
Most adolescents do not begin with
the so-called hard drugs such as cocaine, crystal meth or heroin. Usage
generally begins with drugs that are much more easily accessible and, in the
adult population, are legal; nicotine and alcohol. Usage frequently begins with
easy access to these in the home, be it the home of their family, friend or
relative. Tobacco and alcohol are believed, by many experts, to be the gateway
or entrance to a path towards drug abuse.
Generally, even teens recognize the
serious health risks associated with smoking. Yet, if they are willing to smoke,
its an easy link to drinking alcohol. By this time, they have demonstrated they
are risk-takers so the obvious next level is to marijuana. From there it can be
a dangerous, even deadly spiral towards other drugs, and the destructive
behaviors that go along with them.
Understanding Addictive
Behavior
No matter what drug is involved,
the disease of addiction appears to follow a predictable course. Typically, the
user begins out of some level of curiosity. If the initial experience produces
pleasurable results, the individual will more then likely move on to
recreational use, such as with friends, at parties or on the weekends. As they
come to enjoy the drug more and more, it is inevitable that the usage will
increase, such as using during the week on a regular basis. Soon, their lives
become more and more centered around getting the drug and finding opportunities
to use it. It begins to interfere with relationships, school, work, and other
formerly productive areas of interest in their lives. By now the
drug-dependency, the addiction, have taken control, and the individual is unable
to function without the drug. If there is not a physical addiction, there is
most certainly a psychological dependency upon their drug of choice. And if
their drug of choice is not easily accessible, they will resort to whatever it
takes to obtain that drug.
Marijuana - What You Need to
Know
The National Institute on Drug
Abuse reports that marijuana is the illegal drug most often used in this
country. Studies show nearly 50% of teenagers try marijuana before they graduate
high school. Many parents of teens experimented with marijuana in their college
days, and now find it difficult to talk to their kids about the use of
marijuana. But today, marijuana use begins at a much younger age and there is a
much more potent form of marijuana available to the kids today.
Kids site their use of marijuana as
a way for them to cope with life’s problems, to deal with anxiety, anger or
depression, a way to escape, something to do so as to ease boredom. Long-term
studies of high school students appear to demonstrate a pattern that few young
people use other drugs without first having tried marijuana. Of itself then,
marijuana is a gateway drug.
The Silent Epidemic - Huffing
There are over 1,000 common
household and classroom products that can be used as inhalants, according to the
National Institute of Drug Abuse. Huffing is a form of drug abuse that is on the
rise with our young people at an alarming rate. These products are so common,
you most likely would not be alarmed if you saw a teen buying them. After all,
would you stop to realize that something as seemingly harmless as hairspray,
whipped cream or air freshener could be used as harmful drugs? These products
typically contain gases such as butane or toluene, which can harm the liver,
kidneys and bone marrow, and also cause brain damage.
Most huffers begin very young.
According to a study by The Cape Cod Islands Partnership to Reduce Substance
Abuse it was found that 1 out of 5 students had tried ‘huffing’ by 7th grade.
And inhalants were found to be the 3rd most abused substance, behind tobacco and
alcohol, in the 12-14 year old age group, per the National Institute on Drug
Abuse. A California physician, who lost his 13 year old son to huffing spray-can
propellants said he knew more about inhalants than most parents, yet there were
important things he didn’t know. "I didn’t know about Sudden Sniffing Death. I
didn’t know about the brain damage." He also said he didn’t know it was
habituating, and that it wouldn’t be easy for his son to stop. Kids can die from
abusing inhalants repeatedly, or even just once.
States a Wichita Juvenile Court
Judge, " . . . I see a lot of kids coming into court in all kinds of trouble and
all kinds of problems. The one group of kids that scares me the most are kids
using inhalants, or huffing as they call it." Would you recognize the warning
signs of huffing?
- Chemical
smell on child or childs clothing
- Correction fluid on nose, fingers, or clothing
- Markers in pockets
- Red eyes, nonsensical talk, irritability
- ‘Drunk’ appearance, slurred speech
- Unusual breath odor
- Decreased appetite
- Frequent headaches
- Sores around mouth
- Lack of concentration
- Low grades, school absences
Meth - The Equal Opportunity
Destroyer
Crystal meth, crank, speed,
glass, ice . . . met amphetamine drugs go by many names and have many forms.
Typically, it is found in powder or crystallized forms and can be smoked,
inhaled, eaten or shot-up intravenously. Users are referred to as ‘tweakers’.
It’s very available and cheap to buy, and produces an extended ‘high’ making it
extremely tempting to the young and foolish.
Meth speeds up the central
nervous system causing physical and psychological effects that, at first, seem
pleasurable: increased alertness and energy, decreased need for sleep, euphoria
and increased sexuality. Meth is highly addictive as users often continue using
to avoid the inevitable ‘crash’ when the drug’s euphoric effects begin to wear
off. Meth tricks the body and brain into believing it has unlimited energy
supplies, which is how meth users are able to stay awake for long periods of
time. But these chemical imbalances in the brain and sleep deprivation result in
hallucinations, extreme paranoia and often bizarre, violent behavior. Once meth
entraps the user it wreaks havoc with their body from weight loss and
malnutrition, to welts on the skin known as ‘crank bugs’, shortness of breath,
hyperactivity, severe depression, paranoid delusions and suicidal
tendencies.
A Letter from a Teenage
Addict
Im a fifteen year old
alcoholic/addict, though Ive been clean and sober for seven months now. Right
now I want to persuade you not to shoot heroin or anything else. Drugs force us
to cross the invisible line of fact and reality. Sometimes so often that you
forget where that was, and will have trouble finding where that line used to be.
When you first shoot up, you will most likely puke and feel repelled, but soon
youll try it again. It will cling to you like an obsessed lover. The rush of
the hit and the way youll want more, as if you were being deprived of air. Thats how it will trap you.
Soon your money will run
short and your ‘suppliers’ will start asking ‘favors, Instead of giving you
the occasional freebie, all because they know theyve got you hooked and
they can see the way your body aches for it. All this is part of crossing the
line. Finally, when you have humiliated yourself in every way you could possibly
think of, the darker side hits; ongoing despair and deep
depression.
With me, it was the thrill
and the rush that made the need tolerable I felt like there was nothing without
it and freedom within it. I would walk with my arms folded up so that people
would not see how swollen they were from missing my vein and the with puss
bubbles with a black dot on top from me poking through my vein with a needle. I
still struggle with thoughts of ‘were the hard times really that bad or were
they part of what made them so good?’ Then I realize that I was just pretending
that I enjoyed the mania so that it would not hurt so
bad.
Someone once described
withdrawals as tiny, evil animals; chewing their way out of your skin, and as if
all your pores were opening like a dehydrated plant for just one more drink of
toxic water.
I paid dearly for an
expensive assassin to still my life, mind and body. I am now glad it did not
succeed. So please, for the love of all that is dear to you, just think before
you welcome a killer into your body.
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